So I got closer and started listening to what they were saying.
I was know to have a beer or 2 when I came home from work, I could hear her blaming the things that I had said on my drinking which upset me a lot.
She continued saying things that didn’t males sense trying to discredit me any way she could.
Especially since i was only telling dan how the birth control worked because he had asked.
I didn’t see what the big deal was..
She had quit drinking a couple months ago because she realized she was doing it too often and then I realized when she quit would also have been around the time that she got pregnant.
So I started to wonder if she had known about her pregnancy longer than she said.
Too many things were adding up and it started to make my suspicious thought get even worse.
She finally went to the urgent care I recommended to get her implant removed, she was getting tests done, they discovered that she had a kidney infection and she would be staying at the hospital for a few days.
When she was cleared and came back from the hospital, I asked if they had removed her birth control yet and she said they didn’t get to it because they were focused on her kidney infection.
She started making any excuse to stay at her friends house and would take dan with her, I started to consider that she didn’t want him anywhere around me and my boyfriend because we both shared similar suspicions and she didn’t want us talking to him.
Side note, at any point during the situation we had not told him anything other than how the birth control worked.
I wouldn’t see them for days at a time and if I did it would only be for a brief second. She had completely stopped working and dan was drowning to pay his and her part of rent and bills at this point, she claimed she got suspended at work but I have a strong feeling that she just quit and didn’t want to work because she wouldn’t get a new job.
Bills have started piling up, whenever they did pay me it was usually late and I started working more and even found a side job just in case.
Tensions had dies down and we were all getting along agian for the most part, me and her were just talking about pregnancy stuff and about how she was feeling.
We got on the topic of her previous pregnancies.
She told me that her abortion was 4 years ago and her miscarriage was 3 years ago.
We talked a little more and then I went back to my room.
My paranoid brain started going in circles because if she has had the implant for 5 years, that means that she had it during her other 2 pregnancies, would it even be possible to get pregnant 3 times while on it?
I called my cousin the next day who works for an OBGYN and explained what was going on. She said that that would be next to impossible on that method of birth control.
I finally had to come to terms with the fact that one of my best friends lied about being on birth control to Dan and me.
About a week later Dan needed a ride home from work because Sarah was using his car to go to her friends house, we work at the same building and I drove him home.
He had been constantly stressed out so I offered him a beer and made dinner for both of us.
We were talking about the pregnancy and he had shared that he was worried he was getting baby trapped.
I asked how honest he wanted me to be about my opinion and he told me to not hold back. I explained every big and tiny thing that wasn’t adding up.
I then told him yes I think he was baby trapped. He is a great guy and I know no matter what he would be a dad to that kid, but I don’t think he should trust her.
They have only been together for less than a year, He started talking about their anniversary that was on November 27th.
I froze in my seat and asked carefully if that was the Anniversary of their first date.
He said no that was when they made things official but they had been seeing eachother since late October.
I got very nervous and told him that at a Thanksgiving party she had slept with one of our mutual friends and that It sounds like she border line cheated on him.
Sarah and him have been sleeping at her friends house almost permanently and plan to start driving across the country tommorrow.
They told me they would still help me pay rent after they move since they will be living with her mom for free. But I’m not gonna hold my breath since they still owe me money.
UPDATE: they moved across the country a few days ago and have left a lot of their stuff behind including furniture, books (her book collection was always something she was proud of) both of his guitars and expensive long boards and didn’t bother cleaning up their room when they left.
I haven’t heard from them since really but a female friend at work I ran into yesterday saying that Sarah had swung by the building before they moved to say goodbye to a few friends and that she was showing off her baby bump. She had also told all of our friends that she wasn’t working because dan wanted her to be a stay at home mom.
Which I knew was a lie because he had been drawing in bills and begged her to get a job.
I made sure to straighten the story out for the people at work about how she told him she was on birth control when she wasn’t.
Also about how she had financially screwed me over in the process by abandoning me with all the bills and rent.
Her current lie that she is running with is that during her miscarriage a few years ago that the doctor had removed her arm implant with out telling her.
But I know that is almost impossible, when they removed and replaced mine, my arm was sore and bruised/bandaged up for almost a week so It seems unlikely that she wouldn’t have noticed and even more unlikely that the doctor would do that without telling her.
2nd update/clarification on some questions:
